"here comes the rain again "...............tuff week-end ahead......a friend (Tammy ) put up a valiant fight against cancer but is losing......doctors don't expect her to make it thru the week-end.......my daughter & her husband have taken in her 5 yr old 'lil girl during this time in hopes it'll ease some what the loss of her mother.......how do you tell a child that small her mom is dieing?????.......if there is a God ( and I know there is ) "send her an angel right now " ......I know theres a plan in this world for us all but at times its just damn hard to swallow........with much sadness & tears I wish you'all a good week-end & good luck
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my english is not well enough to find the right words...
but i just wanna wish u all the best..and ofcourse all other persons involved in this sad news....
Do yourself a favour and don't ask why, the question will remain unanswered in your mid for eternity. The best you can do is love your friend and her daughter through all of this and do what you need to do. Unconditional love is the only thing you can offer and I'm sure you are fulfilling that.
As for how you explain it, it'll come to your family when the time is right. I wish you all the best and am deeply sorry for your loss and the childs loss.
My father was an aethiest and he even had to question it one day in his life. Best wishes to you.
We used this to help explain the passing of My Grandfather to our younger Children when he passed... Although nothing can take away the pain of that , I found this to be a beautiful way to explain to them .
this is in no way a cure all,,, but is beautiful. My Prayers to the Mother , Child and Family and Friends that are facing this heartbreak at this time.
Much Love
Caaat
Waterbugs and Dragonflies
Waterbugs and Dragonflies
Doris Stickney
A reading from a book that tackles the subject of how to explain death to young children. This was read by Daniel Brice at the JTSMA service of rememberance held at the Collegiate Church of the Holy and Undivided Trinity in Stratford upon Avon on 17th June 2000.
Waterbugs and Dragonflies
Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They did notice that every once in a while one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about with its friends. Clinging to the stem of a lily, it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.
'Look!' said one of the water bugs to another, 'One of our colony is climbing up the lily stalk. Where do you suppose she is going?' Up, up, up it went slowly. Even as they watched, the water bug disappeared from sight. Its friends waited and waited but it didn't return. 'That's funny!' said one water bug to another. 'Wasn't she happy here?' asked a second water bug. 'Were do you suppose she went?' wondered a third. No one had an answer. They were greatly puzzled.
Finally one of the water bugs, the leader of the colony, gathered its friends together. 'I have an idea. The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where she went and why.' 'We promise', they said solemnly.
One spring day, not long after, the very water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broken through the surface of the water, and had fallen onto the broad, green lily pad above.
When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn't believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail. Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings. The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from the new body. He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water. He had become a dragonfly.
Swooping and dipping in great curves, he flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere. By and by, the new dragonfly lighted happily on a lily pad to rest. Then it was that he chancd to look below to the bottom of the pond. Why, he was right above his old friends, the water bugs!. There they were, scurrying about, just as he had been doing some time before. Then the dragonfly remembered his promise: 'The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he or she went and why'.
Without thinking, the dragonfly darted down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly he could no longer go into the water. 'I can't return!' he said in dismay. 'At least I tried, but I can't keep my promise. Even if I could go back, not one of the water bugs would know me in my new body. I guess I'll just have to wait until they become dragonflies too. Then they'll understand what happened to me, and where I went'.
And the dragonfly winged off happily into its wonderful new world of sun and air.
I missed this blog when you first posted it...I'm so very sorry to hear this news. My heart breaks for her little girl. I dont think there is anyway you can easy the pain of such a loss, with words. All you can do is fill her world and tiny heart with all the Love you can. Know that the Lord is right next to her, and will always be.
My thoughts and Prayers will be with her, as will they be for you. Hold on to your Faith, for it will be what gives you strength.
Life isn;t fare sometimes.