Grandkids being punished for nothing

Hang in there, it'll get better...

Also remember that as far as your kids are concerned, it's her loss...She's the one missing out. I have the same problem with my Dad right now, but I am to the point that I cant worry about it anymore. He will eventually call and apologize, and I'll accept.

I hope you get to a peaceful point of acceptance as well, before you let it eat at you too bad...

GL on and off the felt...

Dang...I hate to hear this...I havent spoken to my mom for over a year for reasons I will not talk about here, so I understand your sistuation.

I know it's hard not to speak to her and not know what is going on...but sometimes a break is needed with family...it was very needed with my Mom... I dont talk to her but there are ways that I have found out how she is doing...I know that I am missing out on my time with her, but I have come to the conculsion that the missed time has improved my outlook on life and I have a lot less headaches. Do I love her?..hell yes I do, she's "my" mommy...Do I miss her?...of course I do...but right now in my life I'm ok with it....and you will be too.

I wish you luck dealing with this...

~Flops~

So Sorry angel. As adults our parents and In my case grown kids have there own life that we cannot control. We worry , cry and have nightmares that something bad has happened.

I have been through it all with my son. The one that only calls me when he needs something or he's sick or got into trouble again. Las time was the other night he was out at a party and somehow got his foot ran over and it was crushed. Calls me yesterday to tell me and but instead of getting the drivers insurance info he uses my insurance to go to er. Now he has to see a specialist but he wants me to pay for it. ( right I don't have the money to go to the doc. cause my legs are going numb.) So of course he gets mad tells me to f off and I don't care and blah blah blah.

Of course I get off phone cry and get mad cause I cannot make him do what he should and I can not live his life.

I tell myself every day this still it hurts.

Hun please remember you can not control others actions. You will always worry ( we all do). Its not easy but remember you did your best and thats all you can do. Now its your turn to just be the best mother you can be. And let your children fill your heart with laughter and love.

God Bless

Kathy

maybe you could go to her place to see or just ring you police station and ask them to cheack on her as she has not answered and off yours or the kids calls for 5 months

just a thought hope rb can help you

Hello xjd,

u werent a drag at all,if anything i was,but I have tried all my adult life to get close to her,and she pushes me away further each time,nothing I have done has ever been the right thing.I was sick with leukemia as a toddler,and they gave me a month to live,and here I am years later,so I dont know if she didnt want to be close in fear she would lose me,or what,but if that were the case y not talking to her own grandkids,who have done nothin to her at all,they loved her,what they knew of her,cause we live far away,went to see her 2 yrs ago in TN,stayed like 3 days,took her things she needed for her apt,well thoughtshe needed,it was a lie when we got there,she had it all,and had called the day before to see if there was anything else she neede,never said she didnt need anything,well anyway the whole time there she barely said anything to me,1st this she said was it looks like u gained a little weight,not hi how ya doing,a hug,or anything,after not seeing her for 3yrs prior.Im not perfect,but I havent done a thing but tr to be close to her,and my kids are hurting,cause she wont even talk to them,after they have left message after message,and asking on each one why she wont talk to them,its not really about me,its about my kids,and her not talking to them.But I guess enough of that anyway,I may tick some1 off.Dont mean to go on,sorry

Thank You jkiser,

Im not hateful of my mom,never have been,maybe its always been not understanding why in the situation,knowing i have tried some ofThose that know me,have said I should be hateful towards her,but its not in me,and never wanted it to be in my kids.I think it really boils down to one of 2 things with her,and one being when i was sick,having a month to live as a toddler she didnt ever wanna get close in fear of losing me,or the fact even as a child she never wanted me to be happy,and she could control that,and u would have to know what happened with me growing up for me to say that,and as an adult,she tried to stop me being happy,it worked once,and is still with me,cause I dont have a few of my loved ones cause of her,but as she figured after that she wasnt gonna control my happiness,or stop it.Its sad to say,but true.What is so hard about this is my kids,her not talking to them,and not know,and everything I have been thu with her,I have never stopped the kids from talking to her.

Hello Dale

mine was kinda abusive,never really did grow up at home as I got older,and I wasnt a bad kid when I was home.when she was wrong and I was right,she would call the cops and say she had an uncontrolable child in home,and slap me in mouth,so they would come get me,take me to a time out home,which after a few times they knew what was going on,but still came and got me when she called them,and someting happened when i was about 10,and she had cops pick me up from school,and sent me away to same home,and never tried to get the person,never went to counsling with me at the home,or anything,it was like she threw me away again like trash,I was also in a girls home,then the state had me,but mom still had say so over me,but didnt want the physical responsibility,but wanted the control,and my grandfather came from tn to fla with his new wife,and wanted to take me back to tn,and raise me what he called the right way,instead of me being in homes,and the state said yes,guardian at lightem said yes,and the house counsler,but cause mom said no,they couldnt let me go,and her and I were like 8 hours apart,and she never came to see me in home.My stepdad says she knew she could push me around as a child,and now she cant,so shes done with me,thats how he saw it.,but with all that I still tried to be there for her as much as I could,her and my grandpa never talked hardly,and when he died I saw how much it hurt her that they didnt talk,and get along,and my grandparents were the most loving grandparents,no hate in them at all.All I did was tell her Ithought it wasnt right what she said,and my kids are paying for it,go figure.

I too have issues with my mother,,, some days she loves me others she gets really short and brings up all my downfalls.... hang in thre girl it will get better, and you have quite a family here to lean on , so use us!

much Love to you and your babies!!!!

Love,

Caaat

Thank You caaat,

Have a good night